Phrasing your thoughts and feelings to create an appropriate and comforting sympathy message is often a difficult task for many. People usually require soothing sympathy messages for sympathy cards or notes of condolence.

Though words cannot take the pain away they can still help in consoling and encouraging the bereaved for dealing with the loss of a loved one.

Sympathy messages need not be too elaborate or flowery; they should simply be straight from your heart. To make the message more comforting, you can also include a suitable quotes, proverbs or scriptural verses. You can also share a memory of the deceased if you knew him or her well.

Given below is a list of some beautiful and warm sympathy messages that you can use for sympathy cards and notes of condolence.

“Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.”

“May the memories of (deceased’s name) help you find peace.”

“Sharing in your sadness as you remember (deceased’s name).”

“I hope, in time, all the good memories will comfort you.”

“We may have to let go, but we never have to forget. (Deceased’s name) will stay forever in our hearts.”

“He/she is home now in the loving arms of his/her savior.”

“My heart goes out to you and your family.”

“Let your memories of (deceased’s name) ease the pain of your heart during this challenging time.”

“Thinking of you and wishing you moments of peace and comfort as you remember (deceased’s name) who was so close to you.”

“Sending healing prayers and comforting hugs. We are so sorry for your loss.”

“‘Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”.’- Matthew 11:28
We are missing (deceased’s name) along with you. With heartfelt sympathy.”

“’When you are sorrowful, look again in our heart and you shall see in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.’- Kahlil Gibran
Keeping you in our prayers and wishing you peace during this difficult time.”

“Do not protect yourself from grief by a fence, but rather by your friends.”- Czech Proverb
Thinking of you with deepest sympathy.”

“’It is not length of life, but depth of life.’- Emerson Ralph Waldo
We are glad to have known (deceased’s name). We realize you have lost a special person.”

“’The comfort of having a friend may be taken away, but not that of having had one.’- Seneca
May your memories give you peace and comfort.”

“Losing a loved one leaves a heartache no one can heal but their memory is a precious gift no one can steal. I cannot imagine your pain. I can only offer my most sincere condolences.”

“May the angels walk with you on this day, and hold and keep you until the pain goes away. You are in my thought and prayers.”

North Carolina regulates the practice of funeral service through its nine-member regulatory board called the North Carolina Board of Funeral Service.

Its definition of funeral service, however, is broader than the Federal Trade Commission’s term “funeral provider” as it also includes entities that only provide funeral-related goods or services.

According to the North Carolina Board of Funeral Service fact sheet updated in October 2013, there are about 758 funeral homes and 112 crematories in North Carolina. All the crematories are supposed to be licensed and they are overseen by the North Carolina Crematory Authority.

Laws Concerning Burial in North Carolina

Starting with burial, like most other states, North Carolina Law also does not require embalming. Embalming refers to the process of preserving the human remains with the use of chemicals to temporarily delay decomposition and make it suitable for public display.

Moreover, it does not require outer burial containers like vaults, though most cemeteries require them. Also, the state does not prohibit burying your own dead on a property that you own, as long as the topmost portion of the remains or the burial container is 18 inches or more below the ground.

The state also allows families to serve as their own funeral directors. While doing so, make sure to notify your county health department of the death within 24 hours. Plus, arrange for the death certificate to be filed with the county registrar within five days.

If you are not burying the deceased in an established graveyard, church graveyard, cemetery or memorial garden, then you will also need to check with your local health department to ensure that the burial location of your choice poses no health risks like possible contamination of a source of water.

In addition, if you are considering home burial then the local governments may have certain rules regarding this, so before going for a home burial it is suggested to check with your local town or county clerk.

Laws Concerning Cremation in North Carolina

Coming to laws regarding cremation, like most other states, North Carolina also requires an alternative container for cremation. However, you do not need to purchase a casket for cremation. Also remember that a cremation cannot take place until 24 hours after death.

Cremation basically refers to the process of incinerating the body of the deceased at high temperature in order to reduce it to cremated remains. In case you want to learn more about this procedure and its details then you can get extensive information at Cremation Resource.

Regarding the transportation of body, you can transport it to the crematory yourself or arrange for the transportation by the crematory or funeral home.

However, if the body is to be transported out of the state then you will need a permit signed by the medical examiner.

As for the scattering or storing of the cremated remains, there are certain restrictions in North Carolina.

The state allows scattering of ashes in scattering gardens, uninhabitated public lands, federal land (request permission beforehand), and one’s own private property (if you wish to scatter the ashes on someone else’s property then need to get the permission from the landowner. You can also scatter the ashes at sea (at least three nautical miles from land) or by air after removing the ashes from the container.

Until the ashes have been scattered, they can be kept in a plastic or cardboard container; purchasing an urn is not called for by the law. Those who do not wish to scatter the ashes may store them in a columbarium niche, crypt, grave, or even at home.

You can get all the information regarding the rules and laws governing funeral service in North Carolina on this page.

Situated in South East of the United States, North Carolina, with a population of approximately 9,752,073 people, is among the 10 most populous states in the US.

The state was named after Charles I of England as the term ‘Carolina’ is derived from the Latin word ‘Carolinus’ which translates into Charles.

Besides, the state is also known as the Tar Heel State or the Old North State. The North Carolina state motto is “Esse quam videri” meaning “To be, rather than to seem”. It was adopted by the North Carolina General Assembly in 1893.

The North Carolina Colony was founded by some Virginians in 1653. Prior to that, two groups of English settlers established two colonies in the state around 1580s. However, they failed.

Of these, the first group returned to England but the second vanished without a trace. In fact, what exactly happened to this “Lost Colony” Sir Walter Raleigh established at the Roanoke Island is still a mystery.

Nevertheless, colonists from Virginia began to move to North Carolina (around Albemarle Sound) by 1640s. Gradually, it became a part of the British colony and was named Carolina.

In 1705, the first town in North Carolina, that is, Bath, was built. Its first state university was opened in 1795 and the first State Fair for the state was held in 1853.

However, by 1710, the Carolina colony began to spit into North Carolina and South Carolina.

Thus, by 1712, North Carolina was made into a separate colony that raised corn, tobacco, and livestock. Furthermore, it became a crown colony in 1729.

Other major events in the history of North Carolina include the Culpepper’s Rebellion in 1677, the Quaker-led Cary Rebellion in 1708, the Tuscarora Indian War from 1711 to 1713, and the killing of the infamous pirate, Blackbeard off the North Carolina coast on November 22, 1718.

Later, during the late 1700s, it became the first colony to declare independence from the British crown. Following the American Revolution, it became one of the 13 original colonies to join the Union.

In 1861, though, North Carolina seceded and joined the Confederacy in the Civil War and sent recruits (at least 125,000 troops) to fight for the Confederacy.

The troops led by Confederate Gen. J. E. Johnston surrendered in 1865 and in 1868 the state was again admitted to the Union.

Coming to the industries, grew swiftly in the state during the late 1800. In addition, the North Carolina Department of Agriculture was formed in 1877.

Furthermore, in 1903, the Wright Brothers made the first successful at flight at Kitty Hawk.

In the present scenario, apart from tobacco, textile, and furniture, North Carolina is also strengthening its knowledge-based enterprises like biotechnology and pharmaceuticals.

On the other hand, the state has been known in the past for its strict death penalty system. You can read about the history of this state in detail at Wikipedia and

Death through suicide is usually discouraged socially as well as religiously. Most religions consider suicide as sinful because when a person takes his own life, he ruins his opportunity for spiritual growth and enlightenment by misusing his free will.

After all, spirituality lays emphasis on the eternal nature of the spirit soul and hence, inspires us to progress in life through spiritual advancement.

Unlike other species of life, humans are better equipped to understand spirituality due to their higher level of consciousness.

In addition, death of a loved one through suicide leaves the bereaved family and friends devastated as it causes immense emotional damage.

In earlier times, cemeteries did not even allow placing headstones on the graves of those who committed suicide.

However, the situation has changed now as it is believed that the victims of suicide require understanding and compassion.

Thus, during the funeral service, prayers are said to invoke consolation for the bereaved family members and forgiveness for the deceased.

Plus, there are several memorial products’ sites like The Comfort Company, Memorial Gallery,, In Time Of Sorrow, and so forth that offer a wide variety of funeral and memorial products to honor the departed soul. Furthermore, books about dealing with grief after suicide can be of great help.

More often than not, people suffering from depression repeatedly ponder over the thought of committing suicide in an attempt to seek a way out of their miseries and end the unbearable pain of living.

Besides, certain other psychological conditions like schizophrenia, anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, etc. increase the patient’s chances of committing suicide.

In addition, though there is no genetic predisposition still, as suicide has a negative impact on the survivors, suicidal behavioral patterns do seem to run in families.

Furthermore, according to the Spiritual Research Foundation, negative energies are also likely to influence and encourage a person considering suicide.

Plus, at, there is there is detailed explanation on the three classifications of suicide NDEs.

It gives examples from different accounts of Near Death Experiences and explains how suicide is considered unfavorable because it shows rejection and disregard for God’s gift of life.

Studies have shown that men are almost four times more likely to commit suicide than women. Scientific research has shown that those who are at a risk of committing suicide tend to have low levels of a brain chemical called serotonin.

Although suicide is a voluntary act of taking one’s life, there are certain warning signs and symptoms that indicate the possibility of a suicide. Some such symptoms are:

  • isolation
  • helplessness & hopelessness
  • fascination over one’s own death
  • talking about wanting to kill oneself
  • talking about being a burden on others
  • lack of interest in future plans
  • dramatic personality changes
  • changes in eating/sleeping patterns
  • unusual risk-taking behavior
  • giving away prized possessions
  • increasing drug/alcohol intake

Hence, do not neglect your near and dear ones’ suicide attempts or their talks expressing their desire to die. When suspecting the possibility of suicide, it is recommended not to leave that person alone.

Rather, it is best to get professional help. In addition, talk about the suicidal individual’s feelings and do not act judgmental and shocked.

To get a better idea on how to help a suicidal person, visit websites like and

Basically, death penalty or capital punishment is meant to curb crime rates. Thus, in earlier times, it was universally used as a means of punishment. However, gradually, countries started abolishing this practice due to a number of factors.

For instance, criminologists have found that death penalty does not prove effective in reducing crimes.

In fact, according to Norma Shapiro, former legislative lobbyist for the American Civil Liberties Union of Massachusetts, states that impose death penalty tend to have a higher crime rate. Hence, it cannot be considered viable for crime control.

Furthermore, there is risk of executing innocent people as there are chances of error. In addition, being arbitrary and irrevocable, it denies the person on death sentence an opportunity to derive the benefit of new laws and amendments.

Cost, too, is another important factor because the death penalty usually costs high due to complicated legal process. It is even considered more expensive than life imprisonment without parole.

Plus, needless to say, it is regarded as a cruel and unusual form of punishment, and a denial of civil liberties. Opposition to death penalty or capital punishment does not show lack of sympathy for the murder victims, though.

It is merely deemed as state-authorized violence or simply, a lack of respect for precious life. In addition, there have been instances of post-traumatic stress in the staff members who carry out the death penalty.

At the American Civil Liberties Union website, there is a detailed description of the various reasons cited for the abolition of capital punishment.

On the other hand, some argue that ideally, the death penalty imposed by authorities acts as a severe punishment for the person convicted of crime so as to reduce and avoid punishment by God that would fall upon him later.

At, you can find a statistical account of the different countries that have abolished the death penalty.

Moreover, as per the 2012 Gallup Poll, almost 63% Americans favors death penalty as a punishment for murder and other capital crimes.

This is a significant decline in support of death penalty which was high during the first part of the century.

Coming to death penalty in North Carolina, it has been prevalent in the state ever since it was a British colony. In earlier times, it was executed for a wide array of crimes but later, it emphasized more on capital crimes like murder, rape, burglary, and arson.

However, with the passage of time, the local officials started imposing death penalty unjustly due to racial prejudice. Besides, formerly the death penalty was carried out by hanging but in 1909, it was replaced with electrocution.

In 1917, though, the electrocution of a criminal (Rufus Satterfield) that lasted for about six minutes raised doubts over the use of this method as “cruel” and “unconstitutional”. You can read more about the cases of capital punishment in North Carolina on this page.

Thus, the means of capital punishment was again modified in 1935, as the North Carolina General Assembly passed a bill to change the official method of execution from electrocution to lethal gas.

As for now, it has been changed to lethal injection and execution by lethal gas has been eliminated, since 1998.

Furthermore, in the recent years, there has been a drop in the number of death sentences and executions due to US Supreme Court’s ruling about death penalty being a cruel and unusual form of punishment.

During 1967-1972, there had been several cases which emphasized that capital punishment violates the Eighth Amendment.

If you are wondering as to what constitutes “cruel and unusual punishment” as per the Eighth Amendment then, visit this page.

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